MAKE UP AFTER A LOVERS’ ARGUMENT

There's an old saying, "Never go to bed angry." Easier said than done. As tensions rise and anger builds, arguments can shift from trying to calmly make a valid point to wanting to be right for the sake of 'winning.' Contrary to love songs, chaotic emotions serve no positive purpose for your love relations. Know when to sacrifice the point and salvage the relationship with dignity. The subject can always be revisited at a later time when things settle down.

ITEMS NEEDED

• Sage smudge stick

• Matches or lighter

• Bowl or shell

• Large feather

• Whistle or other noisemaker (party squeaker, whistle, spiritual rattle, etc.)

• Green, yellow or white votive candle

• Your favorite essential oil spray mister (lavender, sage, palo santo, rose, vanilla --- whatever calms your nerves)

WHAT TO DO

• Begin by smudging yourself, the other person, and your bedroom. Set an intention to clear the space of any bad feelings between you.

• Use the feather to waft smoke and walk around the bedroom three times. Make sure you guide smoke into the corners of the room where unwanted energy tends to build-up and hide.

• Recite these words while walking around the room:

Hearts of love and smoke of sage, cool the embers of our rage. Ease the pain of what’s been said before we rest upon this bed. Our differences we will respect and come to embrace and not reject. And so it is.

• Light a white, green or pink candle. Stare into the flame and say these words three times:

Candle fire burning bright, release the need to fuss and fight.

• Use the whistle or other noisemaker all around the room paying special attention to corners where stubborn energy may gather and become stagnant.

• To calm things down, mist the room.

• Walk out of the room and re-enter, noticing the lightness and open air.